Divorce: The First Year
When you have children with your ex spouse, it's very beneficial to have a friendly relationship with them rather than being angry and hostile at each other. Although divorce is very stressful and it can be easy to get caught up in the stress, pain, anger and other emotions that come along with it - friendship is much easier to deal with. Your children will appreciate it as well. Here are some great tips on making your friendship with your ex spouse better.
Accept the Divorce and Heal
The first thing you should do if you plan on being friends with your ex spouse is allow yourself to heal completely from the pain and other emotions that come with divorce. You are or were probably pretty upset, angry, confused and more. When you are bombarded with all of these emotions at one time, it can be difficult to be friends with your ex spouse. Give yourself some time to heal from the wounds of divorce and then attempt to be friends with your ex spouse. You will have a better chance of having a friendly relationship.
Give and Receive Support
Another way to improve the friendship you have with your ex spouse is by supporting him or her. When they are trying to do things to improve their life or the life of your children, let them know they are doing a great job. Encourage them when they are spending time with the kids and encourage the children to spend time with your ex spouse. These things are really important when you're trying to build your friendship with your ex. Also, thank them for the support you receive from them.
Join a Support Group
Another great way to help build your relationship with your spouse is to convince them to join a support group with you. This will allow the both of you to discuss your problems and talk to others who have been there. If you can't talk your spouse into joining a support group, join one for yourself anyway. The pressures that come from divorce are often very difficult to handle and support from others can make things much easier to handle.
Although divorce is a very difficult thing to deal with and it's easy to be mad at your spouse, it can be much easier if you develop a friendship with your spouse. It will only further the healing for yourself, your spouse and your children. Use the above tips to help you build a great relationship with your ex spouse and move forward to a happier, healthier lifestyle.
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