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Divorce - How To Survive A Break-Up

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Are you thinking about divorce? Think again. Is it really worth it?

For anyone who thinks divorce is a free pass to freedom and a carefree, long and happy life, think again!

We won't even speak about the pain resulting when Divorce rears it's ugly head, issues present themselves that no one should have to contend with, issues such as:

Families taking sides, lining up and making comments or threats.
Friends that sometimes pull away when they are put in the position of taking sides and would rather not even to be "involved." This is sometimes devastating in addition to the recent loss of being left alone and feeling totally unnecessary.

In defense of the "friend," choosing between two friends can be a very difficult position in which to exist. Choosing to disappear from the scene, seems to be the only option.

SOME OF THE RESULTS OF THE DECISION TO DIVORCE:

The resulting pain, not withstanding, the home environments change...

A wife may have to return to work.

A husband may have been supporting the family before, but if he is the "leaver," he may be forced to take a second job, in order to maintain a new place to live. (Unless the leaver is a fornicator and is planning to mooch off of their co-conspirator, then they deserve each other.)
Otherwise, the leaver will have to pay, at a minimum for:

  • An additional home
  • Food
  • Utility bills
  • Telephone
  • Cable
  • Insurance
  • Taxes
  • Maybe an additional vehicle
  • Possible childcare costs if he/she has custody when working
  • Alimony may be a reality, also.
  • And after the spoils are divided up, both will most likely, have half of what they owned before, that means the home entertainment system, the boat, the pool and whatever amenities are important to them.
  • Savings will most likely be a non-issue.
  • All of these issues can "break the bank."
  • Retirement dreams become a myth!
SOMETHING OF NOTE FOR WOMEN:

More and more today, if the woman is making a generous amount of money in her chosen position, and her spouse has primary custody, she, not the man, may be charged to pay child support. (The Women's Rights Movement has come to roost.)

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My Wife Wants a Divorce But I Don't - What Do I Do?

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When you have children with your ex spouse, it's very beneficial to have a friendly relationship with them rather than being angry and hostile at each other. Although divorce is very stressful and it can be easy to get caught up in the stress, pain, anger and other emotions that come along with it - friendship is much easier to deal with. Your children will appreciate it as well. Here are some great tips on making your friendship with your ex spouse better.

Accept the Divorce and Heal

The first thing you should do if you plan on being friends with your ex spouse is allow yourself to heal completely from the pain and other emotions that come with divorce. You are or were probably pretty upset, angry, confused and more. When you are bombarded with all of these emotions at one time, it can be difficult to be friends with your ex spouse. Give yourself some time to heal from the wounds of divorce and then attempt to be friends with your ex spouse. You will have a better chance of having a friendly relationship.

Give and Receive Support

Another way to improve the friendship you have with your ex spouse is by supporting him or her. When they are trying to do things to improve their life or the life of your children, let them know they are doing a great job. Encourage them when they are spending time with the kids and encourage the children to spend time with your ex spouse. These things are really important when you're trying to build your friendship with your ex. Also, thank them for the support you receive from them.

Join a Support Group

Another great way to help build your relationship with your spouse is to convince them to join a support group with you. This will allow the both of you to discuss your problems and talk to others who have been there. If you can't talk your spouse into joining a support group, join one for yourself anyway. The pressures that come from divorce are often very difficult to handle and support from others can make things much easier to handle.

Although divorce is a very difficult thing to deal with and it's easy to be mad at your spouse, it can be much easier if you develop a friendship with your spouse. It will only further the healing for yourself, your spouse and your children. Use the above tips to help you build a great relationship with your ex spouse and move forward to a happier, healthier lifestyle.

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